How to Take Control of Your Life As a Teenager

Thứ bảy - 27/04/2024 00:20
Life as a teenager can be chaotic, especially when trying to balance a long day at school, extracurricular activities, relationships with friends and family, and homework. To gain some control, it's important to manage your time and...
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Life as a teenager can be chaotic, especially when trying to balance a long day at school, extracurricular activities, relationships with friends and family, and homework. To gain some control, it’s important to manage your time and maintain your health. Keeping schoolwork and deadlines organized is essential. It’s also key to understand the changes you’re going through, as well as how to keep your body energized as it undergoes those changes. Finally, living a well-rounded, balanced life will help you establish healthy habits that’ll get you through your teens and keep you in control of your life far into the future.

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Managing Your Time

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Staying Healthy

  1. Step 1 Understand the physical and emotional changes you’re going through.
    Your body and mind are transforming themselves. You’re full of hormones that make your emotions intense and difficult to regulate. You’re constantly in social situations at school and at home that exacerbate those emotions. Taking control of your life also means recognizing what’s out of your control: this is an awkward, rocky time in your life. It’s important to accept that.[5]
    • The neurological and hormonal changes and developments in your body can make it difficult to control and cope with your emotions. You may feel overwhelmed, confused, and out of control. Know that this is normal, and there are things you can do to help you stay healthy and cope.
    • Understand that adolescence is something everyone goes through, so don’t be too critical of yourself.
    • Don’t be too concerned about judgment from your peers or from adults. At some point, you will look silly, say something awkward, trip and fall, and so on: it's part of the deal.
  2. Step 2 Eat right.
    Growing and developing take lots of energy, and getting through a packed schedule demands even more. It’s essential to eat a well-balanced diet to fuel your growth and productivity. Never skip any meals, and always make sure to eat breakfast to get your day going on a full tank.[6]
    • Half of what you eat should be fruits and veggies. Balance the rest of your diet out with whole grains, like whole grain bread, brown rice, or oatmeal, and lean proteins, like turkey, chicken, seafood, and eggs.
    • Talk to your doctor to learn more about your specific dietary needs.
    • There’s no “right” number of calories to eat, and no universal portion size for everyone. If you’re a very active boy, you’ll need to eat more than a less active girl. Get to know your body’s needs and take this time while you’re young to establish long-lasting healthy habits.[7]
    • Teens should not go on weight-loss diets or try to lose weight by eating less unless recommended by your doctor.[8]
  3. Step 3 Learn to cope...
    Learn to cope with stress and manage your emotions. Your teenage years are a tumultuous time, and there will be times when you feel stressed and overwhelmed. Learning healthy, productive ways to deal with your emotions will not only help you take control of your life as a teenager, it will also set you up for success as an adult.
    • When you find yourself getting upset, try asking yourself the following questions: "What am I reacting to?"; "What about this is making me so upset?"; "Is this a fact or just an opinion?"; "Am I jumping to conclusions?"; "Am I putting more importance on this than it actually deserves?"; "Will this be important in six months?"
    • Communicate assertively. Many people wrongly think "assertive" means "aggressive." Being assertive means you clearly and respectfully express your wants and needs and that you listen and honor the opinions of others as well. Don't expect anyone to know what you want or need — if you need some space, simply ask for it. Say something like, "I'm feeling really stressed and overwhelmed right now. I need to just go to my room and be alone for a little while."
    • Learn to breathe deeply. Feeling overwhelmed may trigger your sympathetic nervous system, known as your fight or flight response. You can counteract this with diaphragmatic breathing, in which you breathe deeply into your belly. Place your hand on your stomach and feel your belly rise as you inhale for a count of five. Hold for a moment, then exhale for another five seconds. Do this until you begin to feel calm.
    • Journaling is a great way to work through your emotions and vent. Try free-writing three pages in a notebook every day. Don't worry about spelling, grammar, making sense, or even being fair. Just let loose with whatever is going through your mind at that moment (just be sure to keep this journal private).
    • Find ways to reduce your stress. Running, meditation, doing something creative, going for a bike ride, playing video games, shopping — whatever positive activity makes you feel better and less stressed, give yourself permission to enjoy it.
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Staying Grounded and Well-Rounded

  1. Step 1 Decide what your...
    Decide what your priorities and values are.[11] You have to set priorities in terms of the tasks you accomplish, but you also have to prioritize your values in order to take control over your life. Decide what kind of person you want to be, and make good, conscious choices that’ll keep you in control of your life now and well into the future. Ask yourself questions such as:[12]
    • What are positive personal qualities (like loyalty, generosity, honesty, being funny, kindness, and so on) that are most important to me?
    • What kind of an attitude do I want to have? Do I want to be a positive person who loves life? How can I make that attitude a real thing through my daily choices?
    • If I drink, smoke, or take drugs, what will the consequences be for my health, wellbeing, and personal character?
    • How do I want to express myself through the clothes I wear, the words I say, how I treat people, the activities I do, and the quality of my work?
  2. Step 4 Become independent...
    Become independent. Sometimes it's tough for your parents to accept that you're growing up, and they end up taking away your sense of having control over your life. Try to understand that they mainly act out of love and a need to protect you. It's important, however, to communicate to them that you are becoming responsible and independent. The key is to let them get to know you as a young adult.[16]
    • Try spending more time out and about with your parents, like going to the mall or to stores together, out to eat, and other activities you'd normally do with friends. Show to them firsthand how you act in the outside world, that you can take care of yourself in a mature way.
    • Don't tell them that a friend's parents let them do something that you're not allowed to do. You won't get anywhere with that argument, and you'll just end up insulting their parenting style. Instead, tell them in a calm, clear way how their overprotective nature makes you feel and try to compromise with them.
    • Try writing a letter: sometimes we can express ourselves more clearly by writing. Jot your feelings down, let your parents give the note a read, and then have a mature discussion with them.
    • When you do go out with friends, stay in communication with your parents. Keep them in the loop so they worry less when you're out and about, and they'll be more likely to give you more breathing room with time.
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